I drove around for several days with Ruth's clothes in the back of the car. There is something so permanent about giving away her shoes. Her orange paint splattered sneakers probably should have been thrown out but to me they where more valuable than the new unworn keens.
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| new shirt really need a haircut and some sleep |
B and I just relaxed after school. Watching netflix- I admit we both love anime and some of it is odd. We watched a movie called Don't bug me. The bugs were animated and did song and dance routines which B loved. The humans were very weird and everything was subtitled so I had to snuggle B and interpret.
It's great you have Ruth C. to help with the clothes. It's good to do those things with a friend and someone who knew Ruth. As you look thru the emails you see how things are progressing for you and B. It's slow, but it's a positive forward movement.
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Love the T-shirt Pat.
ReplyDeleteSounds like you had a very productive day. You are doing great.
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ReplyDeleteIt's amazing how much power we imbue to, feel from, recognize in the things that have been touched, worn, created by the people we love.
ReplyDeleteAfter my mother died, my father kept her wheelchair with her sweater draped over the handle in the exact same corner of the living room for a couple years. Some of my sisters wondered when he'd put it all away, but I didn't worry about it. I figured, after 54 years together, he could keep them there for as long as he felt he needed to. So many different world religions understand the power of relics, of sacred objects and sacred spaces, of rituals that bring that person back to us, our memories and hearts, in a meal or a story or a song, if only for a moment.
Keep things as long as you need to, Pat, and send them away when you're ready. And let us know what you find there.